23 4 / 2014
Today: Student comes up to me before class and says, “Hi! I just wanted to say that I love your style, your whole look. I love this (motions to sleeveless tuxedo jacket). That’s it. *smiles*” Eye contact the whole time except when she points to my shoulder to indicate my article of clothing. I said, “Thank you.” and we talked about how we both love a good deal.
Two days ago: Walking on my own when I hear a deep, loud voice behind me say, “That’s what I’m talking about!” Turn around as a stranger catches up to me, looking me up and down the whole time, and says, “You could teach the girls here a thing or two about how to dress.” I smiled uncomfortably and veered off towards my car.
Today was cool, but Monday made me uncomfortable and angry. I wish I was better at calling people on their bullshit in the moment and I wish my first reaction to being uncomfortable wasn’t to smile or laugh because it rarely gives off the vibe of “okay, wow, I’m super uncomfortable now”. It usually ends up coming off as approving.
23 4 / 2014
"We praise people for being “naturally” smart, too, “naturally” athletic, and etc. But studies continue to show, as they have for some time now, that it is generally healthier to praise schoolchildren for being hardworking, than for being naturally gifted. We know now that to emphasize a child’s inherent ability places pressure on that child to continue to be accidentally talented, which is something that is hard for anyone to control. When the children who are applauded for their natural skills fail, they are shown to take the failure very personally. After all, the process of their success has always seemed mysterious and basic and inseparable from the rest of their identity, so it must be they who are failing as whole people. When students are instead complimented and rewarded for their effort and improvement, they tend to not be so hard on themselves. When they fail, they reason, “Well, I’ll work harder next time.” They learn that they are capable of success, rather than constantly automatically deserving of it, and they learn simultaneously that they are bigger and more complex than their individual successes or failures."
23 4 / 2014
whenever i see these post-apocalyptic films set in the USA where everyone is pretty much just killing each other with no mention of other nations i always just assume that the rest of the world is fine and has learnt how to resume life as normal